You go to the bathroom in the TOILET, not your panties, not in the car, not on my freshly shampooed carpet, not on the floor at church!!!!
For those of you who don't want too much information, please stop reading.
Just within the last three days she has decided that she is not going to go to the bathroom anymore. We hadn't had a pee accident in weeks and had just gotten her to not wait for a pull up to do the rest of her business. Then BAM. It's like she thinks it's funny. She laughs and when we tell her to go in the potty she says "Yes! No pee pee in my panties only pee pee in the toilet" and so on. She acts like she understands, has been going in the potty for months. She has wet herself four times in the last 36 hours (that I know of) and just laughs until she has to clean it up. I am ready to pull my hair out! Any suggestions? PS. food rewards don't work with her. She doesn't care.
Sunday, February 17, 2008
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First, note that, unfortunately, most kids will go through a stage of "how long can I wait before I can't get to the bathroom" after they have been fully potty trained. It's a horrid trick played on parents.
I, typically (when I'm not too tired and when I'm more sane) make them clean it up, constantly remind them that we can pause the movie, the game, the meal, or whatever (and then force everyone to comply while the little one tries this out and finally realizes he or she won't be missing anything after all), and even go back to taking them to the potty on a schedule (a real pain, but they hate not being in control, so it works).
We had one child who was worse than they others. The thing that finally got her was making her sit in time out... not just a time out for a set amount of time, she had to sit in time out until she put her pee in the potty. (If she had a bm in her panties, then she had to sit there until she could put that in the potty... although that's much harder because sometimes they only have one and after she puts three pees in the potty without any bm, then we let her out). It only took doing that three times and she gave up the act.
That's a good idea Tara, I'll try that.
As a former behavioral consultant in the school system (with experience in toliet training special needs students)I have found that every child has something they will behave appropriately for. You just need to find out what it is. The first thing to do is to discover what her currency is. Then to use that leverage accordingly. As with any positive beahvioral support system the key ingredient in making it work is for her to get the reinforcer. If she can never attain the goal set for her then she will give up. Start with reinforcing for small success and then work your way up. It will have a natural fading mechanism--you will not have to do this forever. Short term it may be a lot of work but the interest in the reward will wear out on its on. Or you could extend it to every other success then every third then to an entire day so on and so forth.
Some things that may work are:
a piece of gum
a toy (that she will only access after success (she may choose a different one daily--have it as part of her wake up routine) something she picks out at the store (if it is big enough then she has to earn it by getting so many stickers, a sticker is equal to a pee/bm in the potty)
a stamp on her hand every single success
playdoh time
If you still do not have any success (after a few days)I would then move on to a timed sit--every 30 minutes she has to sit on the potty for 1 minute. Eventually she will find some success and feel some rewards for that. Then you can move up to every hour. Just do not make it seem like a punishment. You do not want her to be negatively reinforced by the toliet.
Good Luck!! She will be trained before you know it and this will all be a funny tidbit to share with her as part of her childhood.
Rose
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i did the same thing when i was little and my mother tried EVERYTHING!!! the only thing that worked was to give absolutely NO reaction at all. don't talk to her, act completely calm like you don't care at all. it takes all of the fun out of it...and then she will stop. it worked for me.:) good luck, and let me know how it goes! the thing about it is that she knows what she is doing, so this will take all of the fun out of it!
did you try the animal toy thing? I still have the link if you would like it. It's $10 for 37 toys, a mat, and the carrying bag. Not bad, considering they are $5.00 each in stores.
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